Monday, March 15, 2010
Wednesday, March 10, 2010
on marriage
today, i want to talk about marriage. i don't really want to go into specifics but i do want to discuss it as an institution.
to begin, why do it? what motivates us to marry someone? love? fear of being alone?company? "perks"?
i think it may be easier to answer these questions by saying why one shouldn't get married.
the way i see it, marriage is like a pair of handcuffs (i'm sure there are better analogies for what i'm trying to say but for now, this is all i can come up with). it ties you down and ties your hands. sometimes, because of marriage, people have to give up on their dreams in order to meet the needs or demands of their partner.
not only does it tie your hands preventing you from doing something you may want to, but it ties you down. with marriage comes responsibility. duty to your spouse, duty to your future with your spouse (whatever that may entail: divorce payments, kids, etc.) and usually, with marriage comes a requirement for a living space. when we get married, we become less mobile. we can't just get up and go somewhere anymore. we can't move. we become weighed down with material possessions and responsibilities. and make no mistake, the slower we move, the faster we die.
do we feel fulfilled by our marriages? certainly not! except for maybe those rare few girls for whom the perfect marriage is the ultimate goal.
not to say i don't believe in marriage, i just don't think it's for me.
to begin, why do it? what motivates us to marry someone? love? fear of being alone?company? "perks"?
i think it may be easier to answer these questions by saying why one shouldn't get married.
the way i see it, marriage is like a pair of handcuffs (i'm sure there are better analogies for what i'm trying to say but for now, this is all i can come up with). it ties you down and ties your hands. sometimes, because of marriage, people have to give up on their dreams in order to meet the needs or demands of their partner.
not only does it tie your hands preventing you from doing something you may want to, but it ties you down. with marriage comes responsibility. duty to your spouse, duty to your future with your spouse (whatever that may entail: divorce payments, kids, etc.) and usually, with marriage comes a requirement for a living space. when we get married, we become less mobile. we can't just get up and go somewhere anymore. we can't move. we become weighed down with material possessions and responsibilities. and make no mistake, the slower we move, the faster we die.
do we feel fulfilled by our marriages? certainly not! except for maybe those rare few girls for whom the perfect marriage is the ultimate goal.
not to say i don't believe in marriage, i just don't think it's for me.
Tuesday, March 9, 2010
i'm going to be honest....
...i'm not much of a blogger. the idea of revealing my thoughts and perceptions to the rest of the world to analyze and critique seems horrific to me. possibly why i kept all the entries private for so long. however, at this point, it seems that no one really knows very much about my thought processes and well, anything about me.
of late, there are three specific things that have been on my mind (in this order as well):
1) materialistic objects that i covet: to be more specific, cars.
if you don't already know, i recently gave my car to my brother, immediately afterwards, i began to regret it. honestly, i am not sure what came over me. it's not only that i was in love with that car, but the convenience of just having one was not really on my mind, i took that car for granted.
now that i don't have one, all i do in my spare time (and especially late at night, it's a guilty pleasure) is look online through craigslist, ebay, cars.com, autotrader, carmax for cars that i put into my bookmarks for future consideration.
the problem is that i just don't feel that i can settle for a mediocre vehicle. i want a nice car. like an idiot.
fortunately, i don't have the funds to purchase and maintain such a car right now. however, in may i am going to Japan to see my grandmother (on my father's side). and i am quite sure she is going to give me a ludicrous amount of money, more than enough to buy the cars i covet. see the thing is, i am technically the future head of our family (not to boast, but to explain). in asian culture, the first-born son of the male line inherits all the goodies. i happen to be the first-born son of the first-born son of the first-born son and so on and so forth. in addition, my father's side of the family (in Japan) is extremely wealthy. to give you an idea, my grandmother (on my father's side) recently gave my younger brother an island. yes, an island. you see, she is a real-estate queen worth millions.
when i come back, i expect to be able to purchase a nice vehicle.
but i am torn! as much as i want a nice new car, i feel humiliated to buy such a stupid and unnecessary thing. considering we are in a recession and many of my friends are experiencing economic crisis, i would feel pretty awful if i was financially unresponsible while my friends are worried about supporting their families or dropping out of school because they can't afford to stay. and i had a new car.
i also feel concerned because of how i would feel about those who i don't know who aren't as fortunate as me.
2) girls, that's pretty self explanatory but i'll elaborate anyway. it's the curse of a single guy at tech. so much of what i do is motivated by or for girls. unfortunately, the dearth of them only makes the ones that i do see more prominent and it's hard not to lower my standards or settle.
on second thought, i'd really prefer not to elaborate on this one.
3) money, ties in with the first point on cars.
done. peace.
of late, there are three specific things that have been on my mind (in this order as well):
1) materialistic objects that i covet: to be more specific, cars.
if you don't already know, i recently gave my car to my brother, immediately afterwards, i began to regret it. honestly, i am not sure what came over me. it's not only that i was in love with that car, but the convenience of just having one was not really on my mind, i took that car for granted.
now that i don't have one, all i do in my spare time (and especially late at night, it's a guilty pleasure) is look online through craigslist, ebay, cars.com, autotrader, carmax for cars that i put into my bookmarks for future consideration.
the problem is that i just don't feel that i can settle for a mediocre vehicle. i want a nice car. like an idiot.
fortunately, i don't have the funds to purchase and maintain such a car right now. however, in may i am going to Japan to see my grandmother (on my father's side). and i am quite sure she is going to give me a ludicrous amount of money, more than enough to buy the cars i covet. see the thing is, i am technically the future head of our family (not to boast, but to explain). in asian culture, the first-born son of the male line inherits all the goodies. i happen to be the first-born son of the first-born son of the first-born son and so on and so forth. in addition, my father's side of the family (in Japan) is extremely wealthy. to give you an idea, my grandmother (on my father's side) recently gave my younger brother an island. yes, an island. you see, she is a real-estate queen worth millions.
when i come back, i expect to be able to purchase a nice vehicle.
but i am torn! as much as i want a nice new car, i feel humiliated to buy such a stupid and unnecessary thing. considering we are in a recession and many of my friends are experiencing economic crisis, i would feel pretty awful if i was financially unresponsible while my friends are worried about supporting their families or dropping out of school because they can't afford to stay. and i had a new car.
i also feel concerned because of how i would feel about those who i don't know who aren't as fortunate as me.
2) girls, that's pretty self explanatory but i'll elaborate anyway. it's the curse of a single guy at tech. so much of what i do is motivated by or for girls. unfortunately, the dearth of them only makes the ones that i do see more prominent and it's hard not to lower my standards or settle.
on second thought, i'd really prefer not to elaborate on this one.
3) money, ties in with the first point on cars.
done. peace.
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