on marriage

today, i want to talk about marriage. i don't really want to go into specifics but i do want to discuss it as an institution.

to begin, why do it? what motivates us to marry someone? love? fear of being alone?company? "perks"?

i think it may be easier to answer these questions by saying why one shouldn't get married.

the way i see it, marriage is like a pair of handcuffs (i'm sure there are better analogies for what i'm trying to say but for now, this is all i can come up with). it ties you down and ties your hands. sometimes, because of marriage, people have to give up on their dreams in order to meet the needs or demands of their partner.

not only does it tie your hands preventing you from doing something you may want to, but it ties you down. with marriage comes responsibility. duty to your spouse, duty to your future with your spouse (whatever that may entail: divorce payments, kids, etc.) and usually, with marriage comes a requirement for a living space. when we get married, we become less mobile. we can't just get up and go somewhere anymore. we can't move. we become weighed down with material possessions and responsibilities. and make no mistake, the slower we move, the faster we die.

do we feel fulfilled by our marriages? certainly not! except for maybe those rare few girls for whom the perfect marriage is the ultimate goal.

not to say i don't believe in marriage, i just don't think it's for me.