i am a terrible person

so this weekend, daniella, my friend from CMU stopped by in atlanta because her flight was canceled or something and she needed a place to stay the night. me, being the gracious host that i am, offered to let her stay in my apartment for the night since i don't even sleep on my bed. i wanted to see her and catch up since we haven't seen each other in two and half, maybe three years. but the real reason was because i was lonely and just wanted somebody to talk to.

daniella had a boyfriend. they had been dating about a year i think. she climbed off the bed, down the ladder and asked me to pull out the futon. as we were sleeping together, we started to cuddle, and things progressed from there. i'll spare the details, but we stopped before we went too far.

the point is, she is the second girl with a boyfriend this semester, that i have hooked up with. what am i doing?! how the hell am i seducing these girls with steady boyfriends?

i had always believed in the ladder theory for girls. if you don't know it, it works like this:

girls have two separate ladders for guys. one for friends, one for potential boyfriends, husbands, etc. now once you're on a particular ladder, it is easy to move up and down the ladder but very difficult to jump from one ladder to the other. in summary, if you're just friends, you can grow closer or farther apart. and if you're a "hook-up" you can become a boyfriend or you can be dropped altogether.

however, daniella has shattered the ladder theory for me. not by herself. but since she is the third "friend" that i have hooked up with, i no longer believe in the double ladder theory. i think one big ladder is more appropriate. with friends being closer to the bottom, and husbands being near the top.